RELATIONSHIP AND MONEY

Am gonna start with a story of a couple who use to live close to ma house in Nigeria.

They are married, Have 4 kids and the wife practically feeds the family with her 'tiny' shop, Pays the kids school fees, Buys there clothes, She cooks from things from her shop to feed the family.....Ok am sure u get the point.

One morning we heard screaming and shouting, We all came, Wondering what was going on.

The woman and her husband were fighting about sex..The husband said ohhhh my wife has refused to let me DO, every night na war, I have to beg and beg, for what, Didn't i pay her bride price.....HA we all said, One person asked, Madam why na, She looked at everybody and smiled.

Ask my husband when last he gave me money, Ask my husband when last he gave me money to cook, Ask my husband when last he paid the kids school fees, Ask my husband when last he gave me money to buy a dress or say take go and make your hair. And he stands here to ask for sex, Will sex put food on the table, Will sex pay school fees, Will sex clothe the kids. NO NO NO..... Only happy wives have sex, Only happy women have sex. Then she walked away.

I smiled and went into my house. I said to my mum i should feel pity for her but i don't. My mum asked why?? I said am 100% sure he didn't spend or give her money when they dated. Am 100% sure she thought it didn't mean or matter. Now your married, You expect some kinda miracle, But it doesn't work that way.

Loads of girls think asking for money from guys is a terrible thing, Guys think if ask for money, It makes us gold-diggers.You think if your partners doesn't get you gifts its ok...But its not OK.

You are in a relationship and you ask your partner for money to make your hair and he says don't you work, Didn't you just get paid....Then at night, you open your legs and allow him entry....

Because you work doesn't mean your boyfriend is free from paying your bills, Because i have a good job doesn't mean my boyfriend is free from buying me stuff.

Women please don't sell yourself short...That's my next topic

FRIENDS WITH THE EX

Why are we still friends with our ex?????? Some say its a sign of maturity, Some say oh who cares he/she isn't my enemy, Some say why not,we ended on a good ground, Some say even if He/She broke my heart i have moved on so yah we can be friends.

But is it really healthy to still be best of friends with your Ex, Especially the ones you know you still have feelings for. I mean like everyday talking, Chatting etc.

Especially when one of you has moved on and is doing so well in their new relationship...Inside you feel that should be us, Why didn't it work out, What went wrong..You torture yourself without even knowing, You then realize that you are always unhappy when ever you guys talk, But you force yourself to smile and act like your happy for him and also with your life..Now that's what i call unhealthy friendship with the Ex.....Please don't stay friends if your always feeling this way.

Now your still single, His still single and you guys are still ''acting'' like best of friends, You talk everyday, Still hangout and in your head your wondering why did we break up, Why can't we come back, Did He/She really love me, Does He/She still feel anything..Should i try and make a move, Should i try and win us back...You torture yourself again without knowing....Please don't stay friends with the Ex if you have this thoughts because they now see you as a brother or sister. Its unhealthy.

He/She is now married, But your still friends, Your always chatting and talking *thanks to social media*. The way you guys chat, You wonder where His/Her partner is and in your head you think OK maybe He/She still feels for me, But why didn't we get married, Wasn't i good enough, Does He/She have second thoughts and regret why we didn't end up together, Does He/She still think about me, Should i try and break his/her marriage.....Now that's you going crazy for still being friends with the Ex..And its sooo unhealthy.. Please look for new friends....

So many people might disagree with me and say its still Ok to be friends with your Ex, I agree with them if ;

I see any of my Ex as ewwwww, Did i really date this guy, What the hell did i find attractive, Was i so young that i was blindly in love....Now i can stay friends forever with this Ex...(LMAO)

If we had nothing in common, And always fighting and arguing and just getting on each others nerves, Yah i can try and stay friends with this Ex....hehehheee

If his mother hated me while we were dating and she's the cause of our break up..Sure i can stay friends with this Ex, Because i get a chance to torture and make fun of him for being a mummy's boy...

I could go on and on....But the truth is being friends with the Ex can make things awkward for us...We end up being different people around them, The thought of cheating on you present partner is high if your always around an Ex you still have feelings for, The thought of you becoming a bitter/jealous person is high, Blah Blah Blah.

But then If you can handle the whole situation, Fire down and keep that friendship Burning and lets hope no one gets burnt.....