GAMES

 Hello guys, sorry I have been MIA for a while. Anyways am back now.

Why do we play games. Mind games actually. As humans do we always have to mess with people’s head 1^st to get what we want. Do we have to finger people’s brains 1^st to get noticed.

Boy likes girl, tells girl I like you.

Girl likes boy, tells boy I like you.

They date, it doesn't work out.

They break up and go their separate ways.

End of story.

Boy likes girl, messes with her head 1^st before he says I like you.

Girl likes boy, forms a bit then finally gives in.

They date, boy starts acting up and forming busy.

Girl notice and draws his attention.

Boy says girl nags, girl too loud, girl not funny enough, etc

                                                            Girl hates boy, boy says girl is full of drama

                                                            They turn Enemies.

Why??????

It gets to a point or stage in one’s life when you tell yourself no more games.

You see a girl, yeah she’s sexy and I want to have sex with her.

You see a nice looking lad, and say yeah I want to bang him.

You see a girl/boy, yeah I want to date her/him.

Two adult saying let’s be friends, or No all we do is fight, its unhealthy lets break up.

Two adults have fallen out of love, they talk like matured people and try to sort it out or move on without creating any form of hatred.

Two people in a relationship don’t need silence. Communication is the key to any happy relationship and a good night sleep.

Babes am going to be busy because I have a project am working on. Message received. When he/she doesn't hear from you, they are ok.

We become bitter and angry people because someone has played a game or fast one on us. Hatred grows in us, takes control of us and when we finally meet someone who isn't into games we don’t care or don’t take notice.

It’s not by force to date someone, you are not the last man or woman in the world. Breaking up and moving on doesn't make you a bad person. It just means your story in that person’s life is over.

ENJOY BEING SINGLE

Hey guys, Happy New Month. Work has been crazy and my hormones have been all over the place as well, hence the not writing since. Thanks for all the emails.

''Enjoy Being Single'' is meant for Single Ladies only. As we all know, every other Saturday, girls are getting married and some are not and many girls are going crazy and some are losing it big time. Me i don't blame them sometimes but then again we ladies need to chill.

 I have done my own research and i realize most girls are ashamed to say they are single. OK that i can understand (lol) but seriously !!!!!!!!!!
We need to be OK with the fact that we are single, thereby preparing our mind and soul for being in a relationship/marriage..
A lot of us will rush and marry the next available man that comes knocking and end up marrying mad men, junkies, etc because we don't want to be seen as single,

When some of my ex got married, i was sad and taught i had missed out on something, but then trust men to make you realize otherwise. They are all coming after me, still preaching love and saying what a mistake they made.. Hell No Bro!!! you didn't make a mistake, you made the right choice and am damn happy am not the choice.(future hubby take note ohh...don't disgrace yourself by going back to try and sleep with your ex)

I am single and am not gonna feel bad about it. Its high time we ladies learn to enjoy what ever position we find ourselves. (make my mama hear me 1st)
Quit feeling sorry for yourselves and make the best of your single-hood. Enjoy hanging out with your girls, use some of that energy into working your ass off and making some money, travel and see what you can.
Study your friends who are married, read books, discover yourself, enjoy life and what it has to offer.
Enjo
y being single, enjoy being who you are right now, enjoy seeing and experiencing the world on your own.

When you get married, you will loose you as a person and become know as someone's wife.People will now judge you based on Mrs this did that and Mrs this didn't do that.
I heard this saying once ''Single ladies want to get in and married women want to get out and be single''

We will all get married at some point, but before that day comes enjoy being single. Don't let anyone make you feel sorry for being single, don't give yourself HBP because you thinking.

Being single shouldn't be an opportunity to sleep with all the men in the world oh and don't get overly comfortable being single.....I will deny you straight oh, i no send you that one.

Have a good week ahead.

GOD'S BLESSINGS

I came across this video on You Tube, So far i have to admit that God is real and he definitely has blessed this boy.
I watched this video or better still i have watched this video more than 30 times and i still have the same feeling i felt having watched it the 1st time.
It just goes straight to my heart and i feel pain, joy, and happiness to have seen this video.

I hope you guys feel what i felt.

Don't have much to write about this week as i have become boring and less social.

Have a good weekend.

WILL YOU MARRY ME?????????????????????????????????

Hey guys, hope you had a good week. I didn't work wise, but its the freaky weekend and am gonna have me some fun..*singing R.Kelly*

Anyway am gonna talk about Proposals. ''The Will You Marry Me Business''. I have seen dramatic Proposals, Over the top Proposals, Quiet Proposals, Bad Proposals etc....

I have seen the yes i will marry you and the NO, Shaking of the head and the running away.
One question a friend asked is how do people get it wrong and some just get it so right. The video i posted up is one of my favorites.

I will tell you how people get it wrong and right from my own view.  

1st you need to be sure all the signs are there that she wants to get married to you, Then you need to know your girlfriend or partner well. I mean damn well. Is she a drama queen, Does she like/love attention, Is she the quiet one, would she rather stay at home and watch a movie than go out, Does she love food, Does she eat too fast and also large chunks at a time (lol) etc..( so she doesn't get to swallow the ring).
As a man when you take your time and study your woman, then you get an ideal of what kinda Proposal she deserves.
Don't say because everyone is going public, You too will....She will definitely disgrace you.
Make sure you understand your partner.

Me, I love my food...So if my man goes and hide the ring inside my meal, I definitely will eat that ring.
Me, I love drama, My man decides to propose to me at home, HA big problem for him ohhh...*lipsealed*
He had better be creative, have a sense of adventure and a soul full of Romance.#futurehubbytakenote

If you decide to go for a dramatic Proposal, Men please try and be Romantic, I beg you. Add a twist, magic,romance etc...Don't pack full crowd to one side and ask her to marry you just like that..We ladies plan to get just 'one' magical Proposal in life.. So make it a good one.

The ring might not be some mighty rock, or the wedding won't be the wedding of the Year, but the Proposal should be your way of telling her how much she means to you and how much you want to spend the rest of your life with her through thick and thin, through better or worse and a story to tell your kids and give them something to look forward to when the grow older and need inspiration.

Have a good weekend guys and thanks to everyone who reads my Blog. There's joy in knowing people read what i write.

Ps. Forgive any blunder in my writing.Had a late night.

THE ROAD TO RELATIONSHIPS

Hey, sorry i have not written in awhile, been busy and less inspiration this days. But lately something got me thinking. This guy who is liking me, was going on about love, blah blah.....and i told him something that he thought was weird. I asked him what church he attends (lol ) and where he was from.....He was shocked...I can't blame him anyways...

I told him relationships have gone beyond i love you, you have money etc. I may be wrong ohhh........But i think there are a lot of things to consider before going into a relationship.....

Anyways this is my own opinion. I rather date a guy who attends the same church as me, to save us a lot time and stress.....Am a catholic and marrying a none catholic na war...and putting a man through that kinda stress isn't fun..But if his ready, wahala no dey.

I have to date someone who is from my state or two states close to mine. I have a cousin who is from delta and went to the north to pick wife...men my uncle who is a chief said he ain't going anywhere ohhhhh.....He can't carry other chiefs from his place,load them up in a bus or car and start travelling for 10hours all in the name of marriage....lol......His son ended up breaking up with the girl...I won't lie, me i felt where my uncle was coming from.

I won't go and locate one guy that is from one far place then make his family travel 7hrs to come and marry me, then do another 7hrs back home...No na.....I rather stay close to home jor

I just feel relationships have gone past you make me laugh and i love you......I just feel we need to start putting other things into consideration, so that our future is a little stress free.

I don't see why two people should go ahead and marry when their parents are not in support of it.
I don't see why i should go ahead and marry a guy, when his mother clearly hates or dislikes me.

I can go on and on, but hey am only saying what i know..

People really shouldn't rush into relationships or marriage..If there are any issues, try and sort them 1st before going a step further...If your boyfriends mother doesn't like you from the beginning, and you try to make an effort to make her like you, and it doesn't work..Abeg move on before its too late....

Anyways everybody and their own.....Have a good weekend...

MEN AND THEIR DICKS

OK i seem to have lost touch with the way men think. I went to see a friend of mine recently and before going, we chatted via BBM and that was when the come and visit me popped up in the conversation.
And am like, come and visit you for what, he says oh just chatting,go out for dinner and drinks then come home. I said after that what next. He says nothing.
Me knowing how a guys mind works even if we just friends, I said don't start touching me at night oh...
He sends a cab to come pick me that cost £100 to just get to his place that's 1hr30mins..Me i didn't say anything oh.
To cut this story short, at night it was war, he kept touching,poking etc..Me i got upset saying what rubbish is this, am not your girlfriend, not your booty call, so what makes you think you deserve to sleep with me. When you sha sleep with me, what next. I go my way you go your way. Ha please oh....

The next day,he pays a cab that cost another £100 to take me back home. Should i feel bad that he spent £200 and didn't get anything? Me i don't oh

Got home and was telling my bro-in-law and he says am crazy, what the hell did i think was gonna happen.      

So does that mean a lady can't sleep over at a guys place without him think he must have sex, or at least try and have sex with her....Seriously!!!!!!!

I have this friend who is always wanting to sleep with every girl and yet he won't get a girlfriend. I introduced him to a friend so they can get to know themselves better, within a space of 1hr he tried sleeping with her,She got upset and refused. He calls me up again saying introduce me to someone else, me i asked what he was looking for, he said sex, i said ok go pay a prostitute, he said no,he doesn't do prostitute. Then what the hell do you want. If you damn want free sex go get yourself a bloody girlfriend.

How can a man want to sleep with a girl he doesn't have plans for..either paying or starting a relationship.

Men fear God ohh.....................

Don't let you dicks put you into trouble

Sleeping with a guy on a first date or 2months later doesn't make any difference, but as a man you should have self control, try and get to know a woman a bit more before getting your dick out. It won't hurt you know, you can't bang for 1week straight, it might just last 5mins and then what???????

They say women are loose but the men who sleep with this women are called what???

Answer: MEN!!!!!! so they think its cool and is allowed.

100%

In bed with my laptop, sneezing and coughing, with swollen eyes. Terrible flu, but hey that can't stop me from writing.

Someone posted a picture with some writing in this group am in on my blackberry messenger. It says ''sometimes you meet a person and you just click-you're comfortable with them, and you don't have to pretend to be anyone or anything''

Men this had a lot of argument, comments. Some said oh bearing it all isn't good, you need to pretend and let the person find out stuff as time goes on, Others said yah i agree being yourself is the best. Moi was among the ones who agreed ohh..Trust me

One of the hardest thing in my social life is starting a new relationship, its so damn hard to understand someone or getting someone to understand you. Sometimes you have to explain why you do this and do that, why am like this, why am not like that...etc..Its scary to me.

So i always end up back or sticking around my ex's even thou there's no future for us,but then i don't have to explain myself to them cos they know me already.

When you hear this couple have only known each other for just 3 months and they are married...I wonder!!!!
It's either they are 100% comfortable with each others excesses or they bloody well don't know what they getting into.

I believe in 100% not 99.9%. Couples have to be 100% comfortable with each other. Be able to put up with each others bad habits, moods etc.

Am one of the most impatient people i know, so me settling for 99% in a man, my habits will drive that man crazy.

One of my sister's hubby, when he eats i swear i just wanna kill him, or hit him with something..He chews so loud, burps so loud. But my sister doesn't mind. That's a man who has found his 100%.

I have horrible habits and only 100% man can put up with it. I love to call my bad habits ''multi tasking''...When i use the toilet i spend tops an hour there just chilling..I take my food,drink and book to the toilet and have a poo....Only 100% man will think its gross, get use to it but still love me.

I have dated guys who can't smell my cheesy feet, doesn't mean they are bad guys ohh, but i like a man who won't mind smelling my cheesy feet.
Have dated guys who don't do public display of affection, doesn't mean they are bad, but i like a man who will kiss moi in public.
Have dated guys who will tell me off for burping in public(sometimes we can't control it na after loads of fizzy drinks), doesn't mean his bad, but me i like the one who will smile and say gross and laugh.
I know couples who can't fart in front of each other, I know couples who can't share the bathroom and toilet at the same time.

Anyways let me not expose dirty self too much. The truth is we all have bad habits, loads of mood swings, loads of up and down and we owe it to ourselves to be with someone who will get whats going on, who will stand up for you when others judge.

Finding someone who can get why you do the things you do is rare, settling for 50% or 99.9% isn't wrong as long as the thought of killing him or her doesn't cross your mind when they are being themselves but you see it as disgusting.
Settling for 50% or 99.9% isn't wrong as long as you remember you plan on spending the next 100yrs (hopefully) with them so you have to hear and see them do this things everyday and still love them.

SELLING YOURSELF SHORT.

Went out last night, still suffering from a hangover, so i hope am not gonna type to much.

As a woman, you must love yourself 1st, before you can beloved or give out love. 1st rule.

As a woman don't settle for less in any situation. We all deserve the best, even if some of us never get the best,we still deserve it.

This is how i understand creation, God made woman from man...He took out ribs from man and created woman..So its only normal that man look after his rib, rather than the rib looking after itself...

I use to have friends who had swollen faces every other day from better beating from there bf, and the next day you see them together again. I called one and said wait ohh, is it that you enjoy the beating, or you think you deserve the beating or you think you can't get a man that won't beat you, or you think its a normal thing and all our bf beats us too..Me i honestly don't get.

I tell my friends if i have had good and better in a guy, I should be looking for best now, not going back to good because everyone feels i should settle.

In relationships its all about giving and receiving for me, most women will disagree with me when ever i talk about money in relationship. I don't expect a man to pay my every bill, but i need to know that he can pay for it.
 People say only your hubby or father should pay for things for you..REALLY?????

I have friends who need to pay there rent, or pay one bill or the other, they go around asking for loans, worrying sick and at night you will go and meet your bf, gist, talk, laugh, sleep etc and your problem is still there...REALLY is that a relationship.

I have had times when am dead broke, salary is still far and i need to buy my travel card for the week, i will call all my sisters to lend me money, call my friends to lend me money and am in a proper relationship, i tell myself if asking my bf to pay will make the world end,let it end..as long as i get to work the next day.

Being in a relationship is like marriage, the difference is your not legally bonded. You cook for him, clean for him, take care of him, etc Only kids you haven't given him...

Like i said relationship is both giving and receiving. What works for me won't work for you and what works for you won't work me.
In a relationship if i see a nice shirt and it will suit my bf, i will buy for him.
If i get a deal for two to go to a restaurant, i will buy and take my man out.
If i like a perfume and it smells nice, i will buy for my man.
If i go see him and his house lacks food stuff, i go to the supermarket and buy all the food he needs.
If he his broke, I lend him money.
I take him to the cinema, to go have pizza, to go have a drink on my bill.

Then i expect my man to pay for my bills, because that's the kind of relationship i have with my man.
No one asked me to pay or do all this things, but i do it because i feel that's how a relationship should be, looking out for each other always and when you can.

I tell my friends, try what i do and believe me you won't come and borrow money from me, rather your man will give it to you naturally.

As a woman don't expect heaven if you can't give out heaven. And there are men out there who don't mind paying your bills, Who treats you like a proper woman, Who will accept your ideals no matter how silly it is.

A friend told me, don't be with a man who doesn't respect or listen to his parents or doesn't respect God.


P.S. if there's any error in my typing blame it on my hangover.

RELATIONSHIP AND MONEY

Am gonna start with a story of a couple who use to live close to ma house in Nigeria.

They are married, Have 4 kids and the wife practically feeds the family with her 'tiny' shop, Pays the kids school fees, Buys there clothes, She cooks from things from her shop to feed the family.....Ok am sure u get the point.

One morning we heard screaming and shouting, We all came, Wondering what was going on.

The woman and her husband were fighting about sex..The husband said ohhhh my wife has refused to let me DO, every night na war, I have to beg and beg, for what, Didn't i pay her bride price.....HA we all said, One person asked, Madam why na, She looked at everybody and smiled.

Ask my husband when last he gave me money, Ask my husband when last he gave me money to cook, Ask my husband when last he paid the kids school fees, Ask my husband when last he gave me money to buy a dress or say take go and make your hair. And he stands here to ask for sex, Will sex put food on the table, Will sex pay school fees, Will sex clothe the kids. NO NO NO..... Only happy wives have sex, Only happy women have sex. Then she walked away.

I smiled and went into my house. I said to my mum i should feel pity for her but i don't. My mum asked why?? I said am 100% sure he didn't spend or give her money when they dated. Am 100% sure she thought it didn't mean or matter. Now your married, You expect some kinda miracle, But it doesn't work that way.

Loads of girls think asking for money from guys is a terrible thing, Guys think if ask for money, It makes us gold-diggers.You think if your partners doesn't get you gifts its ok...But its not OK.

You are in a relationship and you ask your partner for money to make your hair and he says don't you work, Didn't you just get paid....Then at night, you open your legs and allow him entry....

Because you work doesn't mean your boyfriend is free from paying your bills, Because i have a good job doesn't mean my boyfriend is free from buying me stuff.

Women please don't sell yourself short...That's my next topic